Monday, March 2, 2015

Choices.

 
In this life we will face struggle.  That's a given.  We live in an imperfect world and there's an ongoing battle between good and evil day in and day out. It's exhausting thinking about the choices that we are faced with everyday.  Choices that define us, and eventually determine the type of person we are and the amount of respect we receive from people.  Choices that can build people up, and just as easily break them down.  They can hurt, and they can heal.  They can damage, and they can restore.  That's the beauty of it, but that's the ugliness of it too. 

When we know who we are in Christ and what's important to us, choices aren't as difficult to make.  There aren't any moral gray areas, and there aren't any blurred lines.  Our hearts are convicted before we even begin to act on a choice if we are close with our Savior.  And this conviction keeps us from hurting people we love through shallow decisions that have deep consequences.  So I guess what I'm saying is... it's great that we can control our own choices, but what about when someone else's choices hurt us? What then?  It's not our fault when someone makes a choice that hurts us.  How is it fair that we have to deal with the pain of someone else's selfishness?  Well, it isn't.  But life isn't fair and we certainly weren't promised that we wouldn't face struggle during our time here.  But we do have a Savior that can pull us out of the darkness if we let him and turn our pain into the fulfillment of his will for our lives.

We can either allow God to work in our hearts and reflect him in the way we respond, or we can hinder him from using the situation for a much greater plan than we could ever imagine by allowing the damage done to us to change who we are.  When this happens, we interfere with the work he is trying to complete within us and within the people surrounding us.  There is always a purpose for our pain.  That doesn't make it hurt any less, but it certainly makes us stronger in our faith if we trust Him instead of questioning why we go through things and allowing our pain to make us bitter. 
 
 Satan wants to creep into our hearts and minds when we are weak any way that he can because that's how he wins.  That's why when we are faced with things we are tempted to deal with them in a worldly way.  We can either fight the fight to get even much to Satan's delight, or fight the good fight to receive a reward in heaven by trusting God and holding our peace. Of course retaliating or hurting someone back might make us feel better for a time...but at the end of the day we have the consequences of our choices as well. So we're already dealing with the consequences of someone else's choice, but now we're going to have to stack another layer of consequences on top of that one for taking it upon ourselves to 'win the battle'.  And still, nobody wins.
 
This past year has probably been the hardest one I've faced when it comes to being hurt by people that I love... people that are supposed to love me back.  And the struggles keep rolling.  Just when one storm calms it seems I am faced with a new one.  I've finally come to grips with the truth that hurting people hurt people.  It isn't my fault and it isn't my responsibility to save them.  I know that this season of my life won't last forever and that God is using difficult times for some great reason, and I have to remind myself of that every time I find myself in a dark moment.  I've learned that the only true way to win in this life is to stand firm in my faith and be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power.  Putting on the full armor of God so that I can take my stand against the devil's schemes even when I'm at my weakest point. And responding to the many challenges I face in this life with peace in my heart, knowing full well that God has a plan for my life and that His plans are far greater than mine. 

I just want to encourage anyone who is struggling or going through something, to find rest in the Savior.  He is perfect, constant, and will never leave you.  And when the burden feels too heavy to bear, that's because it is.  God wants us to hand it over to Him and only then can we find peace in our hearts and minds.  The deepest level of worship is praising God through the pain that we face in this life and remaining thankful no matter the circumstances. He will carry you, just as he has me.

3 comments:

Amy Roberts said...

Amen sista!

Amy Roberts said...

Amen sista!

Dawn said...

Thank you for sharing this. I have been struggling with a situation and this speaks directly to my heart! Exactly the reminder I needed to trust in my God.